Review of Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace
Complaints and Keep Your Customers, by Jay Baer
Adjusting to
life back in the US after more than a decade in Asia, I’m still startled at the
meanness of language and attitudes in public life here. I’m so unhappy with
reporting and commentary about presidential politics that I often avoid the
news altogether--even my beloved New York Times, which I read every day in
Singapore.
Public discourse on agriculture development
and technology also seems increasingly fraught with controversy, name-calling
and dramatics.
So I was drawn
to the new book Hug Your
Haters after hearing the author Jay Baer interviewed on one of my favorite
podcasts, The
Accidental Creative. I’m interested in anyone who argues for friendly
responses to those who don’t like us. (I
also have a special weakness for alliterative titles!)
Coming from
a customer service background and directing this book primarily to businesses, Jay
draws on extensive research to describe ‘haters’ who complain about a business
or service, including how and why they do it.
The “Hatrix”
(complete with pull-out infographic inside
the book) focuses on two categories of Haters: Offstage haters who tend to make their complaints more or less
privately in email or by phone, and Onstage
haters, who complain more often and very publicly on social media, review
sites and other public forums. Offstage haters expect a reply; onstage haters
are looking for an audience more than response – which may explain why they tend
to be more cutting and extreme in their comments.
With more
and more companies using Twitter and Facebook to interact with people, customer service has become a ‘spectator
sport’ according to Jay, and that means how companies respond to people can
have ripple effects far beyond a single complaint. Staying silent actually
speaks volumes.
Jay
recommends that businesses respond to every complaint they get, in the same private
or public channel it was made (i.e., email, Facebook), with at least two
attempts to resolve it. Customers feel better wherever and whenever you
respond, he says.
[The third
kind of hater is a ‘crazy’ or a troll, and the recommendation is to quietly
research those suspected of falling into this category, then respond only in
private.]
For
companies, Jay describes four benefits of responding to every complaint.
- We might retain an unhappy customer (or stakeholder in our case)
- There’s the chance of turning them into an advocate for our work. According to the data, haters who have their complaints addressed, whether onstage or offstage, sometimes become advocates for the business. Those with unanswered complaints often become even less of a fan, and everyone in their network probably knows it.
- Complaints and comments can be a good source of intelligence for what’s probably on other peoples’ minds, the silent but larger group of people who are confused or dissatisfied but don’t care enough to speak up.
- Finally, hugging our haters can help differentiate us from ‘the competition’, by out-loving them.
As advocates
for agriculture development (or any other public policy goal), we’re in a
different boat from companies who are paid to provide products and services. But
I think we have a similar challenge when
faced with pointed questions from stakeholders and critics of our positions.
Like business owners, sometimes we’re too busy and try to ignore it all. Or we’re
too offended to let go of arguments.
Like businesses
profiled in this book, we should do our
best to respond in ways that are consistent with the values that have lead us
to our work in the first place, whether its agriculture, development, technology,
some combination of that or something else entirely. We want to help, so we
should show up. We want the science to be trusted, so we should avoid impolite
language and ad hominem attacks.
Why? Not just because everyone’s
watching.
If we start hugging
our haters (and each other):
- We might clear up genuine misunderstandings about our work in agriculture, technology and development.
- We might build relationships and ultimately inspire new champions.
- We might understand the questions and core concerns of all stakeholders (not just the noisy ones).
- We might communicate more effectively and minimize the ‘hate’ in the first place.
Now, who
needs a hug?
By Jill Kuehnert
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